Lately I've been thinking about the progression that occurs in people as they are exposed to the message of God's kingdom. First, there is a period of detox - they ask a lot of questions, are often angry or become even a little proud for a while, and begin to learn how to relax in the Father's provision and care. This is true for people who have been in or out of the church, but the process takes a good while for either, particularly if a lot of healing is necessary. At some point, however, they begin to get interested in seeking Jesus rather than how to "do church right" or be a good Christian. This sets off a period of individual growth that is challenging and somewhat isolating, but it is a necessary and vital period. If that growth time is left undisturbed and the Spirit is allowed to do his work, eventually the person begins to awaken to the world around them. This is the time they begin to hear God's call into mission, and their community gets to help discern the call and the steps to following Jesus into his work.
The problem is, the church has created an environment that can be destructive to all these stages. The complete opposite is typically what happens. First, without the kingdom message, people's identity as Christians is wrapped up in either the church's organizational success or moral / biblical supremacy. Any questions or wonderings that challenge the organization's goals or the so-called biblical ideal are instantly squelched. Second, if someone begins to pursue Jesus in a deeply formational, yet individual way, they are identified as a loner or denying the biblical injunctions to "not forsake the assembling of ourselves together". Finally, and most disastrous of all, if someone manages to traverse through the minefield to a place where they hear the call of God into mission, they had better hope it fits within the church's goals and budget.
I want to propose the progression above as a theory of spiritual formation in community (I refuse to use the word "model" for obvious reasons - this is not a method to follow, but a reality that becomes possible if the environment allows it). In simple terms, churches have a choice to either work with the Spirit or against the Spirit as people are formed and sent as disciples. Eugene Peterson, in his book Working the Angles
states the problem clearly: "It is easier to tell people what to do than to be with them in a discerning, prayerful companionship as they work it out." The sad truth is, as Americans, we are woefully unprepared and unwilling to wait for anything or anyone. However, if we have any interest in both ourselves and those around us truly become apprentices of Jesus, this must change.
We must be willing to be patient with people as they stumble through difficult questions and ideas that stretch their imaginations. We must allow people space to pursue Jesus untethered with full hearts and give them prayer, comfort, challenge and wisdom when all those are necessary. But we must also be willing to listen with them, to hear the voice of their Father as he woos them into the broken places around them or into a fuller revelation of his kingdom in their normal, everyday life. If we do all these things, and allow them to be done to us in return, an environment will be shaped where formation into Christlikeness is as natural (and as fragile...and beautiful...and as labor intensive) as a garden growing with countless varieties of flora and fauna.