Playing the Office Love Doctor
So my co-worker Todd is a single guy, about 30 years old. He lives in a condo down in West Palm and has a new neighbor upstairs who happens to be a single girl, mid-20's, cute, and just moved here from Cuba three years ago. She's in school (dedicated), works at a bank (self-sufficient), and had enough means to buy the condo (resourceful). Now Todd is a nice guy, a little shy, but honestly wants to find a girl he can have a real friendship with and not just go out on awkward dates. So, the question for the Love Doctor is, what's his first move?
My first thought was to pull a Pedro..."Build her a cake or something." But he can't bake. And the cake didn't work very well with Summer Wheatly. But then I thought, what about a plant? Just something that she could put on the counter and remind her of that nice guy who brought her a plant downstairs. Yeah, a little dorky. My father-in-law (this has become a little office side-project) suggested he should throw a party with a few other people from his building and invite her. Not bad.
Any other ideas for the Love Doctor?
My first thought was to pull a Pedro..."Build her a cake or something." But he can't bake. And the cake didn't work very well with Summer Wheatly. But then I thought, what about a plant? Just something that she could put on the counter and remind her of that nice guy who brought her a plant downstairs. Yeah, a little dorky. My father-in-law (this has become a little office side-project) suggested he should throw a party with a few other people from his building and invite her. Not bad.Any other ideas for the Love Doctor?
posted by Mike Bishop at 3:45 PM
6 Comments:
Do both. Thow the party and hand deliver the invite with a nice plant. She will probably ask what she can bring and then you can say "I don't know what is easy for you?" She will then tell you a little bit about herself in this small question and be much more likely to come if she knows she is going to bring something. Anyway...that's my 2 cents. I say go for it Todd.
Is she hewt?
Brant
Have him share some of his tots with her.
if he's going to throw the party make sure he doesn't invite any other available single guys. nothing worse than throwing your own set up party & having the girl meet some other really nice guy there. ouch!
he could always draw a picture of her.
First of all, guys who are looking for love acquire an aura of ineligibleness. The guys who are assertively NOT looking for a relationship are free from the 'desperate vibe' that a woman's intuition can pick up instantly and thus appear more appealing. When I first communicated with my wife, I told her I would never get married - and I meant it. Now we have a blissful union and 3 kids.
If he is going to pull this off, he should pursue a friendship not encumbered with any "romantic hopes" that too often lead to awkwardness. Friendship is the foundation of any romance. And the essence of romance is fun. If it aint fun, then it aint romance. The only reason roses and candlelight were romantic is because they were fun. When the roots dig deeper, then even tough times can be fun together. But it is going to start with simply enjoying shared experiences in a non-expectant way.
Relationships are sewn together like cloth seams. The individual stiches are shared experiences. The more stitches you have, the harder it is to pull that bond apart. You got to start somewhere. So Amber is right, don't stop with bringing a plant. The plant is not going to do the sewing for you. You got to take the time to sew a garment that she just might find comfortable to wear. And if not, be genuinely happy about a friendship at the very least.
My 2.5 cents.
--Chris
I go with the female's advice here. Definitely the soundest. Don't worry about complex mental preparation--that'd just come of fake if it were me.
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